Mummyblogging and Privacy

by Veronica Foale on September 20, 2011

Lock & Key - 6When I started my blog in 2007, I didn’t think about privacy. I used our real names, posted photos, talked about Tasmania and what we had been up to.

What I didn’t do, was let the Internet know where I would be on any given day, or when I would be out and about.

Four years later and I still use our real names, and talk about Tasmania and rarely tell the Internet when I’m planning on leaving the house. Only a handful of friends know the suburb I live in and I’ve been really careful to keep which school Amy attends offline.

These are the things that I do as a matter of fact now.

Tasmania is only very small. The suburb I live in is even smaller, totalling around six houses. Not big at all.

When I first started blogging, I didn’t expect that I would get readers. I hoped I might, but didn’t expect it. And because at that stage, the Australian blogosphere was so small, all of my readers were in the US anyway and having a giant great ocean between here and there helped.

With the huge influx of bloggers and specifically mummybloggers, I think that privacy is something that we should all be thinking about, when our blog is brand new, or not even begun yet.

Privacy Tips

Work out how much you are comfortable sharing, before you share it.

Do you really want to have to remove a post because your husband got angry? Or your MIL found it? Or you got weird searches relating to an unfortunate combination of keywords? I’ve had to take down a few posts after I’ve pressed publish, mostly because people I thought weren’t reading started reading.

It’s the Internet, I can guarantee that the one person you DON’T want to find your blog, will. Eventually.

Do you want to use your real name? What about your kids real names?

Think about this before you start. I considered changing to pseudonyms for the kids in 2009. I only decided against it because I didn’t want to change two years worth of posts.

Also, for the record, it has been shown that readers are more likely to read and get involved with your life if they have “real” names to put to your children. It doesn’t have to be your child’s real name, but maybe calling a child “Emily” as a pseudonym is going to work better than “Princess Smooshypants”.

Do you live somewhere small?

Keep this in mind when adding your suburb to things that might show where you live. Most of my profiles have Hobart (ish) as the suburb and if asked, the most specific I get in the public space is “Southern Midlands” or “About an hour north of Hobart”. Friends have my actual home address, but in the beginning I used a PO box for everything. I still do sometimes, if I get a weird feeling about a PR company and aren’t sure if they’re legit.

At the end of the day, it is your blog and you are the one who writes on it.

What works for me isn’t always going to work for you and vice versa.

I tend to think that as long as I am constantly thinking about and reassessing my online privacy and what I share, then I’m in the best possible position, for me.

What about you? How do you manage online privacy?

Twitter tips: What happens when you forget how to do it?

by Veronica Foale on August 29, 2011

This time last month, I was obsessed with my Klout, tweeting more and more often and watching the @ replies and retweets roll in. I don’t have as many followers as some people of course, but I was actively trying to engage with my followers, join in conversations, laugh and possibly wear my fingertips out touch typing.

And then, I went to Blogopolis and spent more time talking with real people than tweeting. I took notes with a pen and paper instead of twittering and I talked and engaged offline.

But hey! That’s great, you might be saying. Connecting offline is important!

Well, yes. And connecting offline was so much fun, that when it came time to go home and I sat in front of twitter, slightly depressed and more than a little tired, I didn’t know what to say.

So I clicked away and didn’t tweet. What use were mundane updates like “just ate eggs. yay me” and “can someone PLEASE stop my children screaming” when it was so much easier to talk to people instead of tweeting at them?

Once I’d been neglecting twitter for a week, it became even harder to get back into the habit of sharing snippets. Twitter is like a secret language that you have to speak every day, otherwise you forget how to do it.

I was logging on and noticing that my stream was less random snippets and updates and more back and forwards conversations. It can be daunting, if you’ve not been involved in any of the conversations for a while, to break back into them.

Before this, I had heard people complaining about twitter and the “noise”, or saying that after taking a break, they just didn’t see the point of it anymore. I didn’t understand how they could feel that way because DUDE, It’s TWITTER and twitter is AWESOME and EASY and JUST TALK ALREADY.

But once I’d taken a break too, I understood how they felt. Once you’re out of the habit, it can be hard to just dive back into sharing.

Has this happened to you?

I found some things helped me, as I slowly crept back into the shallow end of the twitter pool and sat there for a while.

Just read what people are saying.

Add to the conversation if you like, but it’s okay to just “tweavesdrop”. If people didn’t want you reading, they would go private, or move to DMs and emails. It’s fine to just watch.

Slowly tweet some stuff that makes you smile, or makes you happy.

It doesn’t have to be about how many @ replies you get, or if people are retweeting you. Maybe just aim to amuse yourself for a bit.

Tweet links to other people’s blog posts.

Everyone loves a sharer and I found tweeting links to other posts, an easy way to join back in with the community.

Remember, it’s okay to take a break and come back later.

It’s all feeling a bit much? Go away for a bit. Ignore it. The world won’t end if your klout score drops a little, or if you don’t speak to some people for a couple of days. I promise the Internet will get along just fine without you and if you’re feeling like it’s all too much, maybe a break is what you need.

How about you? Has this happened to you, with any of your social media platforms? How did you overcome it?

What do you give your readers?

by Veronica Foale on August 23, 2011

Today’s post comes from Deb, who blogs at Science@Home.

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What do you give your readers?

Sounds weird. It’s just another way of approaching the perpetual blogging question of

’Why should your readers choose you?’

Your elevator pitch, your voice, your story, your authentic self – these are all different approaches to help you work out what it is that makes your blog tick and your readers come back. In other words:

In what area are you the go-to gal?

This is easier to answer for those of us who have information or practical blogs. I’m the kids science person with a dash of education. The Planning Queen is ‘Wow, how do you fit it all in?’ Stuff With Thing is living with children with autism.

But it can be done by personal bloggers too – are you hilarious? Do you live in the country and people enjoy hearing about your different lifestyle? Do you take gorgeous photos? Are you a beautiful, lyrical writer? Are you up on all the latest gadgets? Do you inspire sympathy, empathy, sighs or fascination? Why do people come back to you?

If you have repeat readers who aren’t related to you then there is a reason, you could even do something radical like ask them what it is.

Are you giving it to them?

Once you have worked out what your readers are there for, turn the question around and ask yourself – are you giving it to them?

Well naturally. I mean I write about kids doing science four times a week!  What more could my readers ask for?

Quite a bit, actually. I have bookmarks full of quirky, sciencey things. I like nothing more than to click around my favourite science blogs, YouTube and Twitter and find time lapse photography of flowers, or turtle embryos, or camouflaged octopuses, or the time of the next meteor shower. This is fun. And if I think so, chances are my readers think so too – after all, they follow me for the fun science.

So I’ve started sharing things. Not just re-tweeting, but actively looking for links to share on both Twitter and Facebook. Commenting on my fanpage when one of my kids does something that makes me think ‘Hey, that’s science!’ Remembering to use Google + whenever I can. Adding more videos to my posts. I’m giving my followers more of what they follow me for.

Links are a nice easy way of adding value for your readers while being fun for you and not much more work – hopefully these are things you look for and click through yourself.

Crafty people – do you share your suppliers? Your favourite patterns? The place you got that fabulous camera?

Funny people – how about the YouTube clips that have made you laugh? Or a ridiculous sign?

Homemakers – I’m sure we all have favourite tips, even the completely non-domestic like me have flashes of brilliance.

And so it goes. Your readers love you, otherwise they wouldn’t read you. Be confident in that and give them more of what they love you for. They might even love you more for it.

Deb writes about kids having fun doing science and rants about education, but for the zombie octopus link you need to see her on Facebook or Twitter.

Blogging is storytelling.

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Push Or Pull: What To Do About A Bad Review

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Problogger: He’s popular for a reason

August 15, 2011

When I first started blogging, I read Darren Rowse at Problogger religiously, picking and choosing from the information he shared, to work out what was best for me. As a personal blogger, some of his posts weren’t relevant, but as a blogger in general, even more of his posts were. At Nuffnang’s Blogopolis, I was [...]

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What to do when you can’t attend a blogging conference

August 11, 2011

This post comes from Kellie, of Three Lil Princesses. *** THIS week The Mummble gave five reasons why attending a blogging conference will help your blog. However, sometimes – for whatever reason – you just can’t attend the conference. For me, the thought of juggling a breastfeeding baby while trying to take in a full [...]

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Using Your Own Photos On Your Blog by Kate Pickle

August 9, 2011

This post comes from the ever lovely Kate at Picklebums. ** Using beautiful, interesting photos in your blog post can attract the eye of a reader, break up large expanses of text, help to tell a story or convey information and is an important tool when crafting fabulous posts. Using your own photos not only [...]

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